Love, Definition: adoration???

So, I get home today, and am filled with Love Streaming from my INBOX, and on my One line Blog from the other day. Thanks to everyone who wrote inquiring about my well being, each note meant a lot to me. It was very uplifting to hear from everyone, thanks. And it got me to thinking,,

After a phone call from my friend Ricky, who lives in Atlanta. We were talking about Unconditional Love, something that so few have experienced and something that is well tooted on afternoon talk shows, but not well understood.

Unconditional: Without conditions, no strings, no expectations, no worries that you are not enough, no facades, no games, no tests to see if ...., no BS, just pure unadulterated unconditional love. Something I may have taken for granted, but never will again.

Love is a word that really needs to be like the word snow to the Inuit people of the artic, they have over 50 some words to describe snow. I think we need to expand the use of the word ‘love’ and add about 50-60 more descriptive terms that we could use instead of LOVE when the need arises. Love is a term that is so casually thrown around, but seldom found in reality. Eros was a word used once that today means more to me than some peoples definition of ‘love’. The word Sohbet, which I described in another post, means talk, but my friend Bette and I use it to describe a spiritual friendships love of discovery with each other.

Roget says this about LOVE: adulation, affection, allegiance, amity, amorousness, amour, appreciation, ardency, ardor, attachment, case, cherishing, crash, crush, delight, devotedness, devotion, emotion, enchantment, enjoyment, fervor, fidelity, flame, fondness, friendship, hankering, idolatry, inclination, infatuation, involvement, like, liking, lust, mad for, mash, partiality, pash, passion, piety, rapture, regard, relish, respect, sentiment, soft spot, taste, tenderness, the hots, weakness, wild for, worship, yearning, zeal

I think Roget is lacking in creative words to use for ‘love’, very few of those words represent ‘love’ to me, such as ‘the hots’, and ‘soft spot’…. If I have a soft spot for you, to me that means I may ‘regard’ you in a way that shows ‘fondness’, but not Love.

Maybe I am being cynical, but love is over rated, and Unconditional Love hardly talked about or aimed for in this day and time. Today at least,, (tommorow may be different) I would much rather someone love me Unconditionally than romantically. If they could do both,, now that would be interesting.

Amias, at Liquid Plastic, has taught me that Love is a Verb. Love she says is an action word, not a passive word to be casually thrown about without thought. When I say I LOVE YOU, to someone, it means I would go to the ends of the earth for them, literally. And hopefully I use it as a verb with my actions, not just my words. This is very important realizing that the word is a VERB.

So anyway, Ricky and I were discussing our ‘brotherly’ love for each other, and how we lack the ability to be romantic with each other, just ain’t happening. We are more like brothers who say ‘I love you man. We never have even tried, and would not at this point because we have went ‘beyond’ romantic love for each other into an ‘unconditional’ love that could not be compromised by thoughts of romance. Sometimes we (or at least I) wonder if we should have tried with the romantic aspects, but then I realize I would have never known this side of our ‘love’, which is so unconditional that nothing stands between us. Romance, and sex get in the way so much and hamper the development of ‘unconditional’ love, not that it can not grow out of either, just I think that it is more rare than admitted.

But, as lofty and good as unconditional love can be with a friend, recently I was told that my ‘longing for more’ is something maybe I haven’t looked at to closely. I am not searching or waiting for it, but I do have this ‘longing’. Now I am more sure than ever before that what I really want is to experience a mixed Love that has some romance,,, maybe some physical ‘love making’ with someone who would want to explore a path to Unconditional Love. Today I am not sure I will ever experience that, so I must relish in the Love that my friends give me which for the most part is Unconditional.

Actually that may be More than enough.

Today Unconditional Love made me feel ‘whole’ again, and I don’t want to lose that ever again. Romantic ‘love’ I will just ‘long’ for and possibly not have again at this age, and I think maybe that I will be alright with that,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

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